You have my sympathy Newt, I personally do not care what someone wears to Church or to take part in any of the activities, I am more interested in what comes out of their mouths than what they wear. I go to quite a traditional church at the moment but dress is not an issue, and the church I used to attend was the same, I wear jeans or trousers and am generally quite casual, if I was required to wear a dress etc I wouldn't go, I would go somewhere else.